I work with coupled folks who are experiencing frequent misunderstandings, conflict that isn't repaired effectively, past resentments that lead to disengagement or escalation or lead you to burying your feelings in silence and people pleasing.
Co-dependency, repressed anger and circular arguments that go nowhere besides making you wonder if you should even stay together, the very common and concerning pursuer-chaser dynamic and relationships becoming distant and disengaged to the point folks feel more like roommates than partners, are some key patterns I have helped folks heal and transform.
Once my clients start experiencing a more secure relationship with themselves, heal limiting beliefs around self-worth and boundaries, keeping the impact of oppression in mind, and release unhealthy relational patterns such as chronic conflict avoidance, defensiveness and unbridled intensity, it brings about notable closeness, repair and reconnection in their relationships.
COUPLES CONFLICT, COMMUNICATION AND REPAIR
Coaching on how to safely navigate triggers as an individual and in partnership, holding oneself and partners in high regard, communicating needs skillfully so they can be met long term, offering and asking for accountability and repair effectively are other crucial skills I help folks gain, which lead to positive sustainable transformation in their entire relationship(s) or marriage.
Core program Features and results:
Clients notice, with their healing and growth, their partners often start to move into more healthy vulnerability, intimacy, relational joy and trust, all of which is the foundation for long term relationship success.
Since I do a lot of coaching with women/nonmen, in my method, I also helps folks gain crystal clarity on what specific metrics to look at to determine progression, safety, repair and whether much-needed shifts and healing are taking place in real time consistently.
These core metrics include the following:
Partner(s) taking responsibility for their share in the dynamic without rationalizing or blame.
Partners asking for time-outs when feeling dysregulated and reconnecting on agreed upon terms, without connection disrupting delays.
Connection rituals like making time for non-transactional intimate conversations (that don’t have to do with just the practical day to day household matters but turning towards, understanding and empathizing with partners, love mapping or getting to know them anew every day).
Somatic and mindbody-based forms of attunement and bonding, such as being mindful of non verbal communication, that signal safety and security to the attachment systems of couples (this alone can help bring cycles of circular arguments and defensiveness)
Developing personalized lists of non-negotiables given a relationship’s history and patterns, so folks are clear on what is negotiable, what is a deal-breaker and where they can be more flexible and collaborative, so they are not compromising their safety, fulfillment and security, to provide key examples.
My coaching also addresses key communication and conflict repair processes for folks with different attachment styles, particularly the common pairing between more anxiously attached and more avoidant leaning folks.
If you want to release patterns of reactivity, people-pleasing, codependency, criticism and distancing in your marriage or relationship(s), so you can engage conflict and deepen intimacy, with skill and compassion, and stop falling into costly relationship destroying patterns like criticism, distancing and defensiveness, my private 1:1 Relationship coaching is for you.
If you are ready to develop a secure, grounding and resilient relationship or marriage long term, that will be a source of pleasure, warmth, adventure, joy and every bit the safe loving haven you and your partner(s) deserve, my coaching is exactly customized to fit your needs.
I am committed to helping you co-create relationships that can, with courage, humour and compassion, weather the storms of life and the internal conflicts and concerns that inevitably show up in love, with the help of my empirically grounded, trauma sensitive coaching.
With my coaching, clients have reported becoming more adept at uncovering the root of their boundary lapses and antidoting them with liberatory self-beliefs as well as the skills and nervous system capacitation needed to maintain internal and external boundaries, become more emotionally aware and responsive to their own needs and their partners, so their relationships continually improve, become more peaceful, secure, satisfying, intimate and committed.
If you want to learn more about how I can help you co-create a deeply loving, grounding and flourishing relationship, I would love to hear from you.
