Love Letters from Clients
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"I’ve learned tools to experience large, intense feelings in smaller amounts so they do not overwhelm me and short-circuit my nervous system."
— Michelle, Client Testimonial
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“Jay offered kind space holding & provided many personalized healing & contemplative tools to help me regain my self-esteem after years of neglect. ”
— Crystal, Client Testimonial
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“I’d recommend Jay as a relationship and dating coach, because she understands the ways that social justice intersects with our ability to experience intimacy.”
— Esther K. Client Testimonial
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“Are you wanting to move past relationship cycles you are stuck in? Still grieving or pissed off over a heartbreak? Ready to feel connected to yourself and others? I am extremely picky about what coaching services I use and I highly recommend Jay’s relationship coaching to anyone wanting to move past the surface solutions and tiktok advice you get elsewhere.
Jay is deeply rooted in evidence-backed practice and rigorously trained by some of the most highly respected giants in the fields of relationship psychology, trauma recovery, meditation, intersectional non-violent communication, and more. She is incredibly mindful of the boundaries between coaching and clinical mental health therapy and can be a wonderful adjunct to anyone currently working with a therapist, distilling years of study into wisdom and practical support tailored for you.
Jay offers a variety of services at different price points and is well worth the investment in your future”.
— Kendra, Client Testimonial
“I Can see family law mediators and lawyers benefitting from the coaching. would help us understand our clients much better.”
— Paula Marie Young
You can trust Jay, the space she holds is second to none.
— Rebecca White
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"I had a Mind Body Healing session with Jay recently, and as a person who is in the middle of a divorce and just changed career after 11 years I’d been feeling a little disassociated and slightly separate from my body.
We had a gentle chat and a check in and Jay shared her infinite wisdom about gentle ways for me to reconnect to my body.
As a person that has burnt out before and worked as a Social Worker for many years I know a lot about ways to gently check in and ground but none of my techniques were quite hitting the spot.
Jay shared a breathing exercise that allowed me to tap into where I was feeling tightness and very quickly that tightness dissipated through that loving, encouraging attention.
Jay also shared a practice/technique that encouraged my body to sit up straighter and with that motion it brought an openness and an expansion to my chest that I’d not really felt safe to explore before.
And actually since my session I’ve noticed that I’ve been able to tolerate that expansion in my chest area, a de-colonising of my chest area, letting go of the male, Eurocentric gaze and allowing myself to be more visible and more present; no more bending myself out of shape so as to avoid the male gaze.
I’d highly recommend working with Jay, she is someone whose work, practices and energy I trust implicitly. Always delivered with a passionate, professional, holding energy and with laughter too, lots of laughter and lightness. Which when you are dealing with traumatised bodies is a beautiful, safe mix. You can trust Jay, the space she holds is second to none.’
— Rebecca White, Social Worker, Reiki Practitioner and Theta Healer.
Hiring Jay is absolutely worth the risk of vulnerability with yourself and being with your actual desires, and the rewards of doing the work, slowing down, and taking the time in a world that tries to bully people into 90 day engagement miracles.
— Alexis P. Morgan
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When we had our session over a year+ ago, I was really frustrated, angry, and demoralized by dating. Our conversation was very energizing and insightful, your notes were incredibly generous (still referencing them!), but it took me a minute to fully embody and digest. When I did, I came out the other side with a surprising decision: I was going to (try, failed, tried again, got better) to stop dating, after many years of being really fixated on the idea of marriage, partnership, and love. I realized I was afraid that I could not stand on my own, but also that marriage and romance, for me, were my "final frontiers" of an opportunity to assimilate into political hegemonies and normalcy. That if I had the right kind of relationship, with the right kind of public-facing person, I would, finally, be safe. That maybe a miracle would happen and I would become Less Other. As someone who is a devoted and ardent anarcho-communist, that realization fucking horrified me, lol.
In the subsequent moons and months, I joined a personal finance group for non-men -- many of whom are cishet yt women -- who are learning the hard way about how they've built and were groomed to accept relationships, and relationships with men in particular. I have watched dozens and dozens of posts be made about divorce, and marital struggles, and all I can hear is your voice and your words in my head, and I get so frustrated that it's a no pitch zone because I'd tell them all investing in working with you could've saved them thousands, sometimes millions, of dollars, but also in time and pleasure lost to heartbreak, disrespect, unnecessary tumult, and abdication of their own right to love fully and safely, with someone who is invested in doing the same. You would MAKE these women money! Not that that's ever a metric of actual substance when the chips fall, but it sure is compelling. It frustrates the fuck out of me that I know some of them will drop a bag on a lesser qualified colleague because they promote a lifestyle that gives an illusion of deep, fulfilling love, or one that plays acts at the spiritual and political support required to be there, and be with, our people, regardless of the love and community we're sharing.
Because here's the funny thing: not only do I have my partner now, my handsome boo, my squishy fishy - and he's great - I have been able to feel safe embracing love of all kinds, including with myself. In fact I went a step further than that, and I realized that I was lacking for a secure attachment to my *own* nurturance and fulfillment...so I married myself. We're very happy together, ha. So while a lot of the tools you gave me are for interpersonal relating, I've mostly used them in navigating the relationship within myself. There is so much more sweetness in receiving care and friendship from all corners now because I have the tools to be my whole heart and whole self with the people who have demonstrated they are available to be with me, as I am, without violence, lack of boundaries, or selective attentiveness in a way that doesn't feel good.
Jay, I know this society likes to paint coaching services - romance - as frivolities, that selling services and support related to these things is either a disaster of con-artists, pop psych gruel, or a non-starter, but you my friend? You have a gift. You stand amongst your teachers and mentors already: you are as insightful and talented, moreso, than Gottman and the like. You will one day be that teacher, if you want.
So, to future clients, speaking as a very pragmatic Venus in Virgo:
Hiring Jay is absolutely worth the risk of vulnerability with yourself and being with your actual desires, and the rewards of doing the work, slowing down, and taking the time in a world that tries to bully people into 90 day engagement miracles.
Hire Jay if you want to date with less turmoil and distress.
Hire Jay if you never want to date other people again.
Hire Jay before you get married.
Hire Jay after you get married.
Just hire her.
Thank you, friend, for everything.
— Alexis P. Morgan
When some of my intimacy fears and triggers came up, Jay was there to support and guide me every step of the way using her trauma sensitive insight, exercises and space holding. She also created a custom conflict repair guidebook for me during our coaching that I still turn to.
— Crystal B.
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Jay coached me on breakup healing and dating after the end of my 6 year long relationship. It had ended long before the official break up, but we hung on because of codependency. I was often bread crumbed, neglected and rarely got my needs met, but we looked pretty stable from the outside.
When the relationship finally ended, it was a relief at first but the grief slowly hit me. I started losing focus at work, cried frequently, suffered night terrors and felt hopeless about my future. That's when I went to a therapist and got mental health support for several months. When a friend recommended Jay to me, I was feeling better but knew I had a long way to go in my healing and had a lot of anxiety about dating another guy who, as Jay would wisely describe, was only "conditionally" committed.
Jay compassionately supported me with processing my break up, the boundary lapses that defined all my relationships and learning how my upbringing impacted them. She offered kind space holding and provided many personalized healing and contemplative tools to help me regain my self-esteem after years of neglect.
In her coaching, she emphasized ways I could feel safer in my body, feel into challenging emotions safely and create more room for connection and joy. I still use her use her triggers and glimmers worksheets.
Jay showed me that grief could be a healthy part of healing, after feeling I had lost some of the best years of my life in toxic relationships. She also facilitated healing around my relationship with time and releasing scarcity fears implanted by patriarchy which was very empowering.
After my excellent experience with breakup recovery, I hired Jay for Dating and Relationship support. She coached me on dating skills like asking deepening questions, sharing my needs without shame and articulating boundaries clearly, then sticking with them.
Jay also helped me create my own compatibility map that I used to successfully screen my dates.
When some of my intimacy fears and triggers came up, Jay was there to support and guide me every step of the way using her trauma sensitive insight, exercises and space holding. She also created a custom conflict repair guidebook for me during our coaching that I still turn to.
I can confidently say the time I spent coaching with Jay changed my life. I met my current partner two and a half months after my Dating coaching ended with Jay. I appreciate that she correctly pointed out at the time how my abandonment wounds were playing into my high tolerance of bread crumbing and low tolerance for stability and intimacy.
With that insight, I was able to stay the course instead of running in the opposite direction when I met my very emotionally available boyfriend. I also made vulnerable choices like asking him clarifying questions instead of people-pleasing, so I knew we were on the same page from the start. I did not do this in my past relationships at all. That cost me a lot of time and peace of mind.
My current boyfriend is so compassionate, funny, trustworthy and an excellent communicator despite being on the quieter side. I never feel unheard or sidelined in our relationship. We share many core values and love spending time with each other.
Our career goals and timelines about starting a family are very aligned too, and we are planning on moving in together by Spring. This is by far my most satisfying, loving relationship, and I appreciate it very day.
I highly recommend Jay's coaching. If you are looking for a gentle, firm, hilarious, powerfully intuitive coach who gets the impact of colonization and patriarchy, will collab with you on how to heal from it and find the love you were always meant to have, you need to hire Jay. She, her work and results are nothing short of radical".
In love and solidarity,
Crystal B
[jay] helped me with assessing my level of labor in relationships and how to approach the major issue of relationship facilitation and feeling overburdened with that. Jay covered how I could balance these dynamics by having clear boundaries and agreements in place.
She covered how we could could effectively communicate emotional access needs and triggers before, during and after conflict conversations, so these conversations were compassionate and consensual.
— L. Faunt.
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I loved my Relationship coaching time with Jay and found it really supportive, grounding and fun! I tend to be a process-oriented person with my thoughts, so the ability to go back and forth with Jay on specific relationship-related ideas was extremely helpful. Jay provided detailed, insightful coaching and troubleshooting on several substantive relationship/relational concerns I had.
She helped me with assessing my level of labor in relationships and how to approach the major issue of relationship facilitation and feeling overburdened with that. Jay covered how I could balance these dynamics by having clear boundaries and agreements in place.
She covered how we could could effectively communicate emotional access needs and triggers before, during and after conflict conversations, so these conversations were compassionate and consensual.
Jay spoke to the necessity of partners cultivating their own support systems to help unpack their privilege and show up more equitably in relationships with gender marginalized folks.
Her recommendation of addressing residual feelings after conflict as a way of preventing resentment was also helpful. Jay's supportive feedback on how to set boundaries around emotional labour in communal spaces and friendships is also appreciated.
Finally her coaching around ethical apologies, timing these correctly and setting metrics around what constitutes repair after ruptured trust provided valuable insight.
All in all, Jay provided me many effective tools that I will be using moving forward."
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I had a wonderful experience receiving performer burnout coaching from Jay Asooli. She brought up a lot of daily micro-practices that I can do to help with burnout, some mindsets that I can use to create resilience in "putting myself out there"/audition-type scenarios, as well as looking at limiting core foundational beliefs in a practical and compassionate way.
I recommend her highly, and I super appreciate that she also comes at it from an anticapitalist and anti-oppression praxis. She played to my existing strengths and I always value when coaches do that. I really enjoyed my work with her overall.
Jay generously wrote up a comprehensive burnout recovery self-care plan for me to use in an ongoing manner following our session, and I am still implementing useful techniques from it.
Jay's assessment was once again helpful in naming and framing various axes of oppression that I've not seen many other coaches or therapists address.
She combines a toolkit of self-compassion techniques as well as strategies like positive environment visualizations to help me move past places where I often feel mentally stuck or mired in past harm.
While my session with Jay uncovered a deeper need for resourcing mental healthcare for myself, her careful and detailed plan is part of my road to recovery."
jay stands head and shoulders above the crowd because of her deep foundational study and training in relational theory, somatic therapeutics, trauma-informed practice and her understanding of ethical coaching scope of practice. Jay's years of experience and specialization in relational therapeutics also allows her to be an invaluable adjunct support to those who are already doing therapy with a mental health provider.
K.W, Registered Nurse, Massage Therapist, Certified Wellness coach
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“I am a nurse, massage therapist, and certified wellness coach. I have spent most of my adult life studying and training in a wide range of physical, mental, and emotional wellness modalities and have been in regular dialectical behavioral psychotherapy for over 5 years as part of my journey in recovering from complex PTSD. Out of necessity, I've had to learn to be selective about the practitioners I work with because many don't have the adequate breadth of experience to be able to support my needs. These days just about anyone can read a few books, take a weekend certificate course, make a logo, and then call themselves a coach. Unfortunately, I've had more than one coach try to attempt Therapy Lite on me without understanding the potential harm they could cause to a vulnerable client by working outside their knowledge-base and scope of practice.
But Jay Asooli is not just anyone. She stands head and shoulders above the crowd because of her deep foundational study and training in relational theory, somatic therapeutics, and trauma-informed practice and her understanding of ethical coaching scope of practice. Jay's years of experience and specialization in relational therapeutics also allows her to be an invaluable adjunct support to those who are already doing therapy with a mental health provider. I carefully vetted her writing and work before engaging her services as a coach, and I could tell she was someone special because of her nuanced and deeply wise insights and evidence-backed ethical practice.To use an athletic metaphor, successful dating and long-term relationships are a bit like running ultra-marathons: to be done well, it requires months, sometimes years, of training and preparation and a team of support professionals to guide you to success—especially if you are struggling with past injuries. Jay is like an incredibly skilled physical therapist working in conjunction with you and your physician (psychotherapist) to further your goals and provide expert guidance and interventions, far beyond what you could get from a trainer at your local gym (your average relationship or lifestyle coach). She understands the anatomy of the Self and relationships, provides in-depth analysis of your current (dys)functional patterns, and creates a finely tuned strengthening program with one-on-one support over several months to assist your healing and growth. Like any good physical therapist, she would never claim to replace your doctor, but she's able to reinforce and expand on the plan of care you are already doing and bring her wisdom and insight into your condition to allow you to progress towards true healing. Most of all, she strives to help you understand your Self and your body better and give you tools and techniques to keep yourself safe, strong, and free to move with joy long after you have finished your plan of care with her”.
— K.W., Registered Nurse, Massage Therapist, Certified Wellness Coach
As an Indigenous woman, I appreciate the lens you speak/write from, as you understand many of the experiences faced by marginalized and/or BIPOC individuals and the systemic challenges we face that impact our relationship experiences. I felt that you would be able to understand and support me on a deep level, which is what I was seeking. Compassion, understanding, trauma-informed and an understanding of how the patriarchy, colonization, racism and oppression impact our experiences.
— Michelle B.
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I heard about Jay and her work through Marissa Loewen. During a personal conversation in November 2021, they suggested I look you up and follow you on FB. So I did!
I was inspired to work with you based on your writing/posts. Your content is highly relevant, based on research, illuminated with personal stories and experience, and filled with wisdom and compassion.
I felt that you brought such depth and nuance to these conversations which is vitally important in this field.
As an Indigenous woman, I appreciate the lens you speak/write from, as you understand many of the experiences faced by marginalized and/or BIPOC individuals and the systemic challenges we face that impact our relationship experiences.
I felt that you would be able to understand and support me on a deep level, which is what I was seeking. Compassion, understanding, trauma-informed and an understanding of how the patriarchy, colonization, racism and oppression impact our experiences.
Your approach to our coaching sessions, and the support in between via email and voice messages, makes me feel seen, heard, and deeply supported.
I feel that you truly care about me as a person, and in particular as an Indigenous woman who experiences individual and collective, present and historical trauma and that you take great care with me as we go through this process together.
I feel safe to share my story, experiences, and emotions freely as I know you understand so much of the complexities of trauma, oppression, patriarchy, colonialism and the impacts it has and will take great care to not further cause or perpetuate harm, as it is very easy to do in this type of working relationship.
I also know that we can get right to work on the issues as I do not feel like I need to provide education in these areas in order for you to understand my whole story and situation/context, as I’ve had to in other relationships with others who are not informed on these issues and the role they play in my life and relationship experiences.
It deepens my trust to know that you are aware of these issues and will share from your lens as we go through my heartbreak recovery process.
Your detailed Heartbreak Recovery and Self-Care Plan has been wonderful in providing me a detailed document I can print out and return to repeatedly as needed, in between sessions to remind me of ways I can support my recovery and manage current experiences. It’s good to go back to review as revisit as we go through this process.
As a result of our coaching, I have noticed that I am much more kind and compassionate to myself as I go through the experience of heartbreak and grief.
There are so many complex, deep, and overlapping emotions to process as I go through divorce and recover from a toxic relationship and navigate a co-parenting situation.
My ever-present, inner critical voice is receding as I learn to be kind and loving towards myself in this process. I am slowing down, noticing what I am feeling and assessing how much I can handle in any given moment.
I’ve learned tools to experience large, intense feelings in smaller amounts so they do not overwhelm me and short-circuit my nervous system.
Learning to “take in a feeling, within my window of tolerance, and set it aside to re-visit later” has been helpful, as has the concept of taking sips of the feeling so I can learn how to feel the sensations in my body without causing overwhelm and shut down.
Also letting go of “getting it right” or other perfectionist tendencies has helped me love and accept myself in the moment, when I am hurting or struggling, which is also healing.
When feeling like I’m in crisis, it’s been helpful to know I can send a voice message in the moment to acknowledge and speak on the feelings as they are happening as a way to process and access support in the moment, knowing that you are there for me on the other side.
Simply feeling supported on such a deep level is healing and life-changing. As a survivor of intergenerational trauma and as someone who has many deep trauma responses as a result, knowing I have a soft place to land that is caring, compassionate, safe and consistent is in itself and healing experience.
To be seen, heard and understood, and held in the spaces of our sessions and in the support in between provides a calming sensation that is deeply welcomed at this stage of my life and healing path.
I would absolutely recommend Jay as a Heartbreak Recovery and Relationship Coach, without a doubt. This is truly some of the best money I have ever spent on my healing path.
Choosing to invest in this coaching relationship to support myself with a coach who is deeply kind and compassionate, who brings a wealth of knowledge and wisdom based on research and experience, and is rooted in an anti-oppressive, trauma-informed approach has provided me with the support, tools, knowledge and mindset to navigate my heartbreak and grief in way that is deeply healing, helpful, and hopeful. I also appreciate our work on safely navigating the conflict and stress involved in relationship loss and the inner resourcing needed to stay firm with co-parenting boundaries.
I can see the true gifts of this experience waiting for me on the other side.
As I walk this path that is filled with the darkness of grief, sorrow, anger, sadness, and pain, I am also able to experience moments of love, joy, peace, compassion, acceptance, and grace, as I am guided through this experience by a such a deeply wonderful soul, my kind, compassionate and loving coach, Jay. "
Finally, I greatly enjoyed working with a woman of color who is much younger than myself, who is bi-sexual, polyamorous, and brings a different cultural perspective to her work. I like that the work reflects an awareness of the role patriarchy, capitalism, and colonialism play in the dating lives of women as structural sources of conflict, norms, and oppression. Jay is wise beyond her years, and I highly recommend her coaching. It is life changing.”
— Dr. Paula Marie Young, Author, Award-winning Mediator, Retired Law Professor
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“For women at any life stage, I recommend the research-based wisdom and coaching of Jay Asooli -- without any hesitation.
I found Jay through a referral from a personal growth coach. I had recently retired and wondered if I now had time for a “retirement romance.”
I did not, however, want to repeat past patterns that would lead to heartbreak and leave me more fearful of romantic connection.
I was ready for this next step in personal growth and awareness. Jay fully customized the coaching program to my needs, lifestyle and requirements. She also created a detailed Dating Success Blueprint for me outlining the coaching process, goals and a personalized roadmap to my own success with dating and relationships that has been quite helpful.
I had told her that joy and pleasure were key values and priorities, as I head into my retirement years. We began our coaching with an exploration of the same.
In our first session, Jay wanted me to consider how I would evaluate a potential partner for pleasure, shared values and joy. She asked what pleasure meant to me. This first journaling prompt began a process of gaining clarity about my own needs and desires.
We next discussed the multi-layered tension I have between protection and connection, autonomy versus commitment, and independence versus interdependence, leading to patterns of intimacy avoidance. We began by examining my own emotional availability, while considering my past pattern of dating unavailable men.
These sessions brought a level of awareness that I can only say changed my life.
I shifted from shame about myself to grace for myself when thinking about these “past mistakes.” We tied this pattern back to my family history.
We proceeded to work with healing patterns of people-pleasing and over-giving. Healthy trust and emotional attunement were also comprehensively addressed in Jay’s coaching.
We worked on setting boundaries that would affect future relationships, a surprisingly difficult task for me. We considered when I allowed boundary lapses and the family roles and patterns that made it difficult for me to set and keep boundaries. I found this work very grounding.
She also coached me on soothing, resourcing and increasing stress tolerance in these situations. It allowed me to reclaim my power and see how fear had played a role in failed efforts in the past to set boundaries.
With this increasing clarity, I completely ended two prior relationships that had lingered in ways that did not support my increasing sense of self.
This work has helped me shift away from pursuing emotionally unavailable, non-committal men who in the past set up a challenge I would have pursued.
By now, I was ready to use a past relationship as a “case study.” How did I get hooked? What unmet needs drove me to overlook my boundaries when dating him?
Our focus next turned to building trust in relationships. We discussed the hierarchy of “bids for connection.”
I quickly learned that I had inverted this hierarchy most of my life, by entering into sexual relations far too early in the dating process.
She coached me on understanding how fear of rejection kept me from expressing my needs.
We talked about trust repair and maintaining trust in relationships.
Equally important, we talked about my increasing ability to trust myself to select good relationships.
With a family history that cast me into the role of “little mommy,” I had people-pleasing tendencies that helped and hurt my past relationships. We discussed ways to assess those behaviors going forward, as well.
As a 67-year old retiree, we talked about ageism and body image, areas of conversation I found of less concern because I continue to see myself as strong, capable, and sexy.
More recently, we talked about how to put together an online dating app profile, date safely online, and vet potential partners using online tools during Covid.
From the beginning she has held space for many ways to think about relationships that extend far beyond a monogamous male-female relationship. My generation was so very binary, so to discuss other options is refreshing.
Throughout the coaching process, Jay has checked in to see what shifts I had made the preceding week, what discoveries I had made, what actions I had taken, and what emotions I had been feeling.
I typically found that I would think about the journaling prompt she gave me for several days, finally writing about it a day or two before our scheduled session.
At the same time, I was reading books and other resources she provided to allow a deeper dive into a few of the sources she uses in her research-based coaching.
Finally, I greatly enjoyed working with a woman of color who is much younger than myself, who is bi-sexual, polyamorous, and brings a different cultural perspective to her work.
I like that the work reflects an awareness of the role patriarchy, capitalism, and colonialism play in the dating lives of women as structural sources of conflict, norms, and oppression.
Jay is wise beyond her years, and I highly recommend her coaching. It is nothing short of life changing.”
I highly recommend Jay as a Relationship Coach because she combines her keen intuition and compassion with trauma sensitive methods. She has helped me through breakups, dating and building a loving secure relationship with my partner. Jay takes extra care to respect my intersections and has always tailored her coaching to my needs. She has helped me heal from past infidelities, toxic relationships and sexist harm.
With her support, I was able to heal from a highly toxic relationship and the insurmountable heartbreak when it ended. Jay helped me see that I wasn’t responsible for other people’s actions and deserved a love that was transparent, consistent and kind. An unexpected benefit of her coaching is that I am able to deal with men as friends and partners from a more self-trusting, empowered place, instead of being constantly anxious and feeling I had to wall off my heart for good.
During Dating Jay provided simple accessible guidance on breaking unhealthy patterns. It really helped me avoid falling for disinterested, emotionally unavailable and abusive men. She also made dating itself less painful with her lightheartedness, eye for compatibility and timely reminders to trust my intuition. When I started dating my partner a year ago, Jay guided me in establishing standards of care, respect and healthy communication from the start.
Her recommendations and healing practices on overcoming intimacy fears and trust issues have helped me shift my anxiously attached patterns towards more security, self-love and peace. My partner is also my best friend, and I couldn’t be happier.
Jay’s coaching helped me to release control and distinguish between intuition and the paranoia caused by past harm. I now lead with self-love, own my needs and wants, set loving boundaries and stand up for myself without falling into people-pleasing.
I have been pouring into my connection appropriately and am much more comfortable trusting my partner’s love.
If you are a woman looking for a compassionate, skilled, relationship and dating coach, you need to hire Jay. She is well versed in trauma awareness and intersectional feminism and can help you make lasting positive changes in your relationships.
Love,
Addy M.
CLIENT UPDATE: Addy and her partner have now been together for over two years and had a beautiful baby last year. :)
HER recommendations and healing practices on overcoming intimacy fears and trust issues have helped me shift my anxiously attached patterns towards more security, self-love and peace. My partner is also my best friend, and I couldn’t be happier. If you are a woman looking for a compassionate, skilled, relationship and dating coach, you need to hire Jay.
— Addy M.
“i have never seen any relationship coach, possibly any coach, as well-informed, compassionate, trauma informed, decolonial and experienced as Jay, especially for polyamorous folks”.
— Marieke Cahill
“Jay is not only trained to the gills but also intuitively gifted”.
— Isha Vela, Trauma Psychologist and Transformational Leadership Coach