I am going to share some research based tips and practices with you, some of which go against the grain with pop psych interpretations of Attachment Theory.

Expecting perfection and completely smooth sailing from dating and relationships can be a deactivating strategy to avoid intimacy.

This is for you if you are experiencing or considering breakups/divorce, leaving a career/community/even hobby behind and struggling to move in a new /different direction.

Key Asooli Coaching Guidance on self-compassion, healing shame, navigating conflict and creating shame resilient trauma sensitive relationships.

What are boundaries? How can they help us release patterns of mistrust and hypervigilance?

Pay attention to the differences between dating proactively and reactively.

The other thing to remember is the best we can do for ourselves and to build healthy trust is be authentic about our concerns, needs, values and boundaries, and to insist on these being, at least, as important as those of partners/loved ones etc.

Based on my research, coaching and personal experience, unresolved grief and shame wounds from heartbreak, recent or not, can make dating and new relationships more challenging.

Your first commitment in dating and relationships needs to be to your well being and to secure functioning.

If you struggle with people-pleasing and/or want to learn more about functional please responses that can deepen connection and fulfillment, keep reading.

I've been thinking of sharing my heartbreak recovery framework, to showcase my approach but also provide folks some guidance/ideas on how the heartbreak recovery process works, generally speaking