Not only is the world changing,
but so is how we date

Women and nonbinary folks

No longer are the old ways of swiping right enough to land a relationship that soothes the soul

No longer can we or will we tolerate being together...just because

No longer will we rely on patriarchal, broken pathways of connection that never lead to true fulfillment

There is a revolution in relationships on the horizon

Navigate the changing landscape of Dating and relationship fulfillment knowing you're unequivocally supported

Learn to be rejection resilient as you search for a partner
who wants to give you what you need

Build solid relationship success foundations that will see you through,
from the first date to that successful partnership

Welcome to the relationship revolution

Trauma-Sensitive

Relax as you do this work alongside a coach who understands the impact of trauma & oppression on your dating and relationship life.

Research-Backed

Backed by decades of research, you can rest easy, knowing you're building a solid foundation for relationship success.

Feminist

End the patriarchal approach to dating and relationships that is one-sided and leaves you feeling lost and neglected

Six Months From Now

You Can Finally Have the Solid Foundation Under You That Helps You Find and Build Equitable, Fulfilling Relationships Where You Are Loved, Cherished and Celebrated For Years To Come

Consent-Based

Get the support for your growth and development in a way that is aligned with your values and preferences.

Tools for Life

The work we do here will give you the tools and practices you need to navigate relationships successfully.

Attachment-Based

Set & hold boundaries and learn to ask for what you need through body-based healing for your attachment style

Joyful Dating for Relationship Success is designed to make finding and keeping that special someone (or people) healing and FUN.
- Jay Asooli

Kick Patriarchy’s A**

You are inherently worthy and lovable just as you are, and the supportive, deliciously compatible partner you desire is out there!

No matter how previous partners have made you feel.

And this six month program is here to help you experience the secure and fulfilling relationship(s) you've always dreamed of...

Without delay, overwhelm, or exhaustion.

Custom Dating Plan

Know exactly how and where to find your most compatible partners with your personalized Offline/Online Dating Plan

Stress-Care for Burnout Proof Dating

Play, pleasure, and relational mindfulness-based stress release to help you date without overwhelm & burnout

Trust Your Intuition

Leave promptly when you see red flags, so you don't make any critical mistakes in partner selection.

“Jay is a dating, relationship and heartbreak recovery coach of the likes I’ve never seen before. And I’m not exaggerating.

Jay integrates several research backed relationship modalities with clear guidance on anti-patriarchal implementation in every stage of the relationship. I’ve benefited both personally and professionally from Jay’s guidance and have been honored to receive kindness and support in so many ways”.  

- Faith Clarke, Organizational Health and Inclusive Teams Specialist

The Joyful Dating for
Relationship Success Framework

Expert
Feminist Dating & Relationship Coaching

Body-Based Practices for Emotional & Stress Release

Financial Safety
& Independence in Dating and Relationships

Self-Love For
Marginalized Bodies

Attachment-Style
Dating Support

Healthy Boundaries

Fat, Dark-Skinned, &
Disabled Folks Celebrated

Embracing Body
Positivity & Kink

Healthy Trust

Compassionate Conflict Resolution

Relationship Care

Equitable Relationship Agreements & More

Feminist Guidance for Unconventional
Dating and Radical Relationships

  • Six Months

  • Expert-Led Workshops

  • 18 Group Coaching Sessions

  • Hotseat Coaching for Personalized Support

  • Dating Profile Reviews

  • Flirtation Playshops

  • Group Movie Nights

  • Integrated Rest Breaks

  • Group Q&A sessions

  • Private Client Only Facebook Group

  • Office Hours

Be supported By leading Clinical Psychologists, Finance, Mental Wellness and Time Management experts So You Learn To Create Safe, Fulfilling Dating and Relationships

WHAT TO EXPECT OVER THE NEXT SIX MONTHS

Weekly Coaching

Up to 90-minute group coaching calls per week with 30 minutes of instruction and 60 minutes of group Q&A and hot seat coaching.

Transcripts & Slides

 Transcripts and slides are provided for review and revisiting the work we're doing as you need.

Templates

Templates for online and offline dating plans that can be used during and after the program will be provided.
Everyone receives custom support on group coaching live calls, monthly office hours or via our private Facebook group support. 

Worksheets & Guides

Worksheets and short-form guides on topics such as boundary setting and conflict repair to serve as a
long term relationship support tool, long past the program's end.

Lifetime Access

Lifetime access to any learning materials our panel of experts may provide as part of their trainings.
 

Expert Trainings

Time Navigation and Boundaries Support to Date with Ease In Your Busy Schedule
by Sheila Hawkins (Leading Time Management Expert)

Self-Love Through Kink and Embracing Fat, Dark Skinned, Neurodivergent and Disabled Bodies
by Lola Rozay (Media Professional and Kink Specialist) and Jay

Financial Safety and Security in Dating and Relationships
by Isha Vela (Trauma Psychologist, Certified Financial Professional)

Relationship & Dating Safety and Happiness for Black Women and Nonbinary Folks
by Mishara Danielle (Clinical Mental Health Therapist & Wellness Strategist)

and an extended session for all women and nonbinary folks of colour with Jay

Community Magic

Community magic for calling in incredible partners,  combining magic with intention and action. 
This ongoing magical support for is consenting participants. You may opt in or out per your discretion.

Choose your plan

Foundations

$2500

One-Time Investment
Full Access to
Group Program only

or 2-Pay of $1750

or 4-Pay of $875

VIP
SUPPORT

VIP+

$4500

One-Time Investment

Get Full Access to
the Group Program including all group calls, workbooks
& Expert Talks

PLUS 4x 60-Minute Private Coaching Sessions

AND 30 Days of Private Voxer Coaching


Early Signup Bonus
(book by August 31):
60 Minute kick off session

VIP+ PAYMENTS

$5000

Group Program with 4x 60-Minute Private Coaching Sessions + 30 Days of Private Voxer Coaching

2-Pay of $2500

or 4-Pay of $1250

VIP REVOLUTIONARY
RELATIONSHIP PROGRAM

If you'd like more personalized support to amplify the impact of group coaching, I am here to offer you private 1:1 coaching, as well.

VIPs enjoy Voxer Support, everything that is in the group program, as well as four 60-minute bi-monthly private sessions (to be completed within 30 days of the program end).

Due to the nature of this work, only a few spots are available for VIPs so that I can be my most effective for you.

If you prefer VIP, please use the button below and we'll get you set up for this life-changing approach to dating and relationships.

And if you'd prefer fully 1:1 coaching, feel free to book a call with me so we can discuss.

VIP's also receive a Pay-in-Full Bonus

Two Powerful Worksho with Personalized Hotseat Coaching:

  • "Successfully Dating after Break ups Or Divorce" for Women/Nonbinary folks who wish to prioritize their emotional wellness, grief healing and expand relational skills for safe, satisfying dating.

  • "Codependency Recovery for Women/Nonbinary Folks" for folks looking to transform patterns of over-giving, people-pleasing and over-functioning in relationships to mutually supportive, boundaried and reciprocal ones.

That's Two Bonuses valued at $1500 when you pay-in-full

Shatter The Old Ways Of Meeting, Dating, Forming & Keeping Relationships

Your Six Month Journey To Your Own Personal Relationship Revolution Looks Like This...

Your next six months will have you feeling supported by not just me and my expertise in relationships but also by leading clinical psychologists, finance, mental wellness and time management experts to help you create safe, healing dating and relationships.

Module 1

You’ll receive…

  • Nervous System Support For Burnout-Proof Dating

  • Five Attachment-Based Principles For Secure And Successful Dating And Relationships

  • Compatibility Assessment For Finding Your Best Matches, EvenIf You are New to Dating or Dating After a Long Gap

Module 2

You’ll…

  • Jumpstart Your Dating Life By Learning How to Make Time In Your Busy AF Schedule

  • Get Your Dating Plans Mapped Out, So You Know Exactly How And Where To Find Your Best Matches

  • Make Dating apps completely optional!

  • Trust Your Intuition So You Can Release Toxic, Emotionally Unavailable or Incompatible Matches Early

You’ll Also Experience… 

Time Navigation And Self-Care For Dating Success Workshop: How to Seamlessly Integrate Dating With Your Lifestyle And Professional Goals

This Month’s Workshops And Play Sessions Will Ignite You And Your Journey!

Module 3

You’ll Discover…

  • Lovingly Healing Your Fear of Rejection to Find Your Most Secure, Satisfying Relationships

  • Unconditional Body Love for Lasting Confidence and Calling In Partners Who Find You Irresistible Exactly As you Are 

  • Somatically Releasing Stories Of Not Good-Enough-Ness So You Can Transform your Inner Critic into your Inner Bestie!

  • Clarifying and Standing by your Delightfully High Dating Standards

You’ll Also Experience…

  • Our Play Session “Kink And Body Love” So You Can Love And Celebrate Yourself Without Apology

  • Jay's Signature Somatic Practices For Unshakeable Self-Approval, So You Can Stop Settling In Love (in Your Career and more!)

Module 4

You'll…

  • Unlearn People-Pleasing To Become Your Strongest Advocate Instead ( With Customized Coaching For Anxiously Attached Folks)

  • Sustain Healthy Boundaries With Body-Based Practices That Take The Overwhelm, Fear And Guilt Out Of Standing Up For Your Needs for All Attachment Styles  (Yes Even When There's Conflict Or Pushback!)

  • Unlearn Perfectionism And Criticism As A Deactivating (Love Avoiding) Strategy For Dismissive Avoidant Folks

You'll Be Able to: 

  • Successfully Date (Not Reject) Emotionally Available Partners Who Can Respect Your Needs And Their Own

  • Experience Love On Mutually Fulfilling Terms Only, So You Can Stop Pursuing Non-Committal People

  • Implement Stronger Communication Skills And Find Partners Who Are Committed To Personal Growth and Your Relationship(s)

Module 5

Relationship Success Foundations, Part 1

You’ll Discover Powerfully Transformative Workshops Like…

  • Quit the Blame Game: Safely And Compassionately Resolving Conflict in Dating or Relationships

  • Equitable Relationship Agreements For Lasting Love: Confidently Discussing Finances, Housework, Emotional Labor, Parenting, Pregnancy, and Disability/Neurodivergence Access Needs with Dates and Partners

  • Financial Safety In Dating And Relationships With Isha Vela

Extended Office Hours for Addressing Your Questions and Concerns

Module 6

Relationship Success Foundations, Part 2 

This Last Month Will Help You…

  • Strengthen Your Dating and Relationship Skills for Success Beyond the Program, With Personalized Feedback and Coaching

    You’ll Experience One Final Life Changing Workshop with our Clinical Mental Health Therapist…

  • Dating Safety And Relationship Wellness for Black Women and Nonbinary Folks, as well as an extended session for All Women and Nonbinary folks of Colour.



    Extended Office Hours for Addressing Your Questions and Concerns

    Closing Ceremony

Get All Six Modules PLUS Additional Support with the VIP Option

Find the Love You Deserve That Deserves You

We live in a time and a place where radical rethinking of who we are as humans and partners is taking place.

We are finally moving from the patriarchal views of "gender roles" to equitable and responsible partnership.

Conflict no longer need be divisive.

Harm no longer need be the norm.

Because mutual respect and care is finally replacing them.

And through a lens of trauma-sensitive training in self-love and acceptance, conflict repair, and boundary-setting, we are creating a whole new way to love and be in relationship with each other that is fulfilling and rewarding.

I can't wait to see you blossom through this Revolutionary Relationship approach to love!

WHO is leading this Revolution?

Hello, I am Jay Asooli.
As your feminist, trauma-informed, Relationship expert, educator and coach, I support clients in their quest for fulfilling, anti-patriarchal and nourishing long-term relationships.

Whether you are in a relationship, dating or recovering from breakup/divorce, I support you with personalized, intuitive, compassionate, empirically grounded coaching and guidance.

As a queer, chronically ill, neurodivergent, plus size, genderfluid femme of colour who is certified trauma-informed, it is my great honour to serve marginalized women and non-men who are ready for relationships that are rooted in feminist empowerment.

I hold the renowned Gottman Level 1 certification in providing empirically grounded relationship support to individuals who are partnered and single.

I have trained in other anti-patriarchal models such as feminist psychologist Dr. Carol Gilligan’s work on egalitarian, equitable relationships and Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s work on finding and co-creating healthy relationships, particularly after divorce.

I have deeply studied Esther Perel and Don Rico’s work on intimacy and trust, as well as Stan Tatkin, Diane Poole Heller, Ellyn Bader and Sue Johnson’s work on attachment and conflict repair and Patrick Carnes’ work on healing intimacy wounds and betrayal bonds.

I am a scholarship recipient to Dr. Tara Brach’s highly regarded Mindfulness Meditation Teacher program, where Tara's work on shame and intimacy wounds has been a major influence on how I guide in my coaching, as well as how I lead my own healing practice

You see...

As humans with human needs in a time when the world is in transition, we demand more.

More from ourselves and those who love us.

But...Most of us weren't raised in environments 

where equitable, loving relationships are the norm, so we often don't really know what they look like.

So the idea of a full partnership(s) where adults can communicate with compassion and trust even during conflict, be independent and interdependent, and love with our whole hearts safely…

Can feel foreign and unattainable. And it doesn't have to be!

In my coaching, I work to help women and non-binary folks love themselves unconditionally, learn to have FUN in partnership (and on their own), and offer them the support they need to be emotionally and financially secure when in relationship.

Joyful Dating for Relationship Success is designed to make finding and keeping that special someone (or people) healing and FUN.

For some, this is the first time they are able to go all in without fear of rejection, people-pleasing, and with the skills they need to resolve conflicts in ways that BUILD TRUST and bring them closer.

Who is this revolution for?

Women & nonbinary folks who:

  • Crave joyful, satisfying partnerships that are rooted in empowerment and understanding

  • Want to love themselves as deeply as they can love others

  • Wish to confidently initiate conversations, have fun flirting and ask direct, clear questions to assess long-term compatibility

  • Prioritize emotional healing and safe dating after divorce or break-ups with a container that facilitates compassionate grief and stress release

  • May identify as shy or introverted and want to enjoy dating with a clear action plan, while respecting their need for space and downtime

  • Desire financially responsible partners and maintaining their own financial independence in and out of a loving, resilient relationship

  • Are ambitious, feminist and now wanting a fully supportive, caring partner that celebrates their achievements, all without the usual dating overwhelm

  • May not be dating at the moment but understand that future dating readiness and success result from accessing professional support and building strong dating skills now

  • Look forward to being supported by leading experts, like clinical psychologists, financial wellness and time management experts to help them create safe, equitable, fulfilling dating and relationships

  • One session with jay fundamentally changed my life so an entire package will be transformational and done with revolutionary love

    Shamaka S.

  • You can trust jay. The space she holds is second to none.

    Rebecca White, Clinical Social Worker

  • You stand amongst your teachers and mentors already: you are as insightful and talented, moreso, than Gottman and the like. You will one day be that teacher, if you want.

    Alexis P. Morgan

  • Jay was so gentle and affirming whille she helped me reconceptualize my approach to boundaries. SO much clicked into place that just a few weeks later, I am applying concepts I have struggled to implement for a year.

    N. Janea

  • I have never seen any relationship coach, possibly any coach as well- informed, compassionate, trauma informed, decolonial and experienced as Jay, especially for polyamorous folks

    Marieke Cahill

  • Our dating coaching has helped me consistently uphold my boundaries around where and in whom I place my energy and trust. I am no longer available for situationships, or individuals that leave me drained. I am much less scared of rejection and have prioritized my emotional safety by moving with more slowness, rest, and care.

    Britania Pousson-Nicastro, Intimacy and Transformate Justice Facilitator

  • Jay, Simply feeling supported on such a deep level is healing and life-changing. As a survivor of intergenerational trauma and as someone who has many deep trauma responses as a result, knowing I have a soft place to land that is caring, compassionate, safe and consistent is in itself and healing experience. This is truly the best money I have ever spent on my healing path.

    Michelle B.

  • Jay's recommendations and healing practices on overcoming intimacy fears and trust issues in Dating have helped me shift my anxiously attached patterns towards more security, peace and self-love. My partner is also my best friend, and I couldn't be happier.

    Addy B.

FAQ

  • In short, doing this work will help you get ready for the relationship(s) you desire.
    So when you date, you are all set for getting it right this time with zero delay and second guessing.

  • I frequently work with high achieving career women, entrepreneurs and creatives. This program is designed to work with your busy schedule, while helping you prioritize your self-care and your relationship fulfillment.

    If you know you'd benefit from support with loving yourself unconditionally and finding a deeply loving, secure and equitable relationship without overwhelm or delay, this program is for you.

  • Yes! Even when you won't be there, live, you can still benefit from the hot seat coaching and the Q&A's we'll be doing, plus my dedicated office hours as well as our private client-only Facebook group where I will be supporting you.

  • This work is designed to be done as you live your life.

    While you'll want to set aside a couple of hours of me time to attend the coaching calls per month, you'll also have optional worksheets and office hours to help you integrate the lessons of the week into your daily life.

  • Yes, we have a payment plan in place to make this work accessible for all women and nonbinary folks who want to take their relationship with themselves and others to the next level.

  • You'll have access as long as the program exists. You'll have downloads of worksheets, templates and more that will be available for you to keep forever, as well.

  • Besides being a feminist, trauma sensitive program, this offering allows you to experience group programs in a uniquely rejuvenating and enjoyable way.

    We do this by building in pleasure, rest and leisure based community activities like movie nights, flirtation playshops (where we playfully stretch comfort zones), kink and body love based workshops plus stress release sessions into the program.

    You will also receive coaching from leading experts in dating time management, financial safety and security in dating and relationships, Kink & Body love as well as Dating Safety for BW and other WOC and nonbinary folks.

    This is a never before offered calibre of support in a dating group coaching program that is designed to set you up for dating and relationship success.

    This program meets you where you are and helps you achieve your dating and relationship goals in a luxuriously supportive container designed to center your lived experience(s), wisdom and fulfillment.

  • The generous six month duration is a breath of fresh air because we aren't hustling your healing here.

    Slowing down, growing at a gentler, methodical, well supported pace now, could save you months and years in avoidable heartache.

    Essentially, you're receiving top notch professional support in this solid six month commitment to your own healing and care, so you are ready for dating and relationship success that lasts.

    Being supported in a research backed, expert led, trauma sensitive container for six months gives you the time and space to integrate dating and relational skills at a restful sustainable pace.

    That's how they become your future relationship success habits.

    This is an ambitious, meticulously researched and designed program to strengthen your foundations for secure, lasting relationships, not just dating logistics.

  • Absolutely. It is designed for all relationship and gender orientations.

    This program is unapologetically Queer, Neurodivergent, BIPOC led and pro- Trans, Enby and GNC folks.

  • With our packages, you have the option of joining our VIP level where you can combine group support with private coaching.

    Here you get private 1:1 sessions with me and private Voxer coaching to further expand your healing, dating and relationship skills.

    This layer of fully confidential support allows for deeper disclosure and more personalized guidance for secure, loving relationships and savvy, stress-free dating.

    With this unique hybrid option, you get the benefits of intimate small group support and private coaching both.