top asooli tips for optimizing your dating profile for attracting your best fit matches

My top tips for crafting a dating profile optimized to attracting your most aligned matches:

I have been fortunate to take a peek into the dating profile of an individual I deeply respect and consider one of the best at profile writing.

I said this a while back on their page too, and it bears repetition.

They have a way of being so clear on their goals, visions, communication style, their relationships of choice and so forth, that this specificity and depth helps them receive highly involved high quality inquiries.

We all hear about the easy breezy light profile advice, the don't get political, don't sound "demanding" etc. and that is not optimized for attracting highly compatible matches at all.

It's designed to keep you scrolling on dating apps like it's your second full time job, because the faulty assumption is dating is about numbers, so don't make your profile too "polarizing", which according to research, is exactly what helps you find compatible matches.

By polarizing, I mean don't aim for being "likeable".

Aim for authentic self-expression, expressing your personality, your desires, what matters to you, your story, your sociopolitical values.

You are not creating a profile to "attract" the highest number of potential matches, but the most concentrated most aligned ones so you are not burning out following dead-end conversations with incompatible people.

My own recommendation, based on years of experience, always is don't be afraid of showing who you are in what you value, want, envision, desire and expect.

It's why Dating Profile Playshops are one of my favourite things to do with clients.

I love getting to build on their self-knowledge to collaborate (to the extent a client desires) on writing incredible profiles *designed* to attract best fit matches, while having a lot of fun along the way.

You want dates with emotional maturity, integrity, aligned values, goals and communication styles?

You know the stuff that makes love happen and then joyfully last?

Be bold. Be political. Be open and vulnerable with what you want. If you are all about brevity, use that to your advantage.

If you are more detailed, use that to your advantage and be lushly descriptive.

Share photographs that show you in your element, doing and being the things you love, value, enjoy and cherish.

I am all about ease here. Ease is effective. Trust it.

Shine.

Honestly shine just as you are. Your visibility is a gift to this world.